Boundaries

If you jump off a cliff without a parachute, you’re going to break something.

Crossing the line is acceptable in this day and age. Sometimes, the lines don’t even exist or if they do, they are so faint you miss them.

We like to think that we live in a world of free thinkers and free spirits, holding our morals high and sympathising with others’ choices, rights and privileges. However, in reality, we live in a world where we make exceptions and compromises in the name of respect and tolerance yet all we manage to do is make excuses and allow people to misbehave, hurt themselves and hurt others.

We assume that our radical ideas of world peace and harmony means we can disregard boundaries in the things we do and those that have rules and structure are dull and lacking in imagination. I would like to disagree wholeheartedly. It takes a lot more courage and dedication to life when we sit down and think of how we can improve life and make things better for others around us and for ourselves. Rules are not implemented to keep you from enjoying life, they are there to keep you from harm. Boundaries haven’t been set so that your world is boxed and made small, they are there as a moral compass that will guard your present and your future.

Simply put if you jump off a cliff without a parachute, you’re going to break something.

Heartbreak is part of life. This life. We are a fallen creation. Made in the image of the Almighty God yet given the free will to cast Him aside. We were given the chance to think for ourselves and we decided that we knew better outside of God’s Presence.

When you read the Bible through the eyes of a Father who loves you, you will see that it is nothing but love through and through. It’s a beautiful and heart-aching narration of a Creator who only wanted fellowship with His creation and has gone step by step with them through their rebellions, beckoning them to return to Him. This story is the one that we live. The choices we make have a purpose and that purpose is to shape us into a humanity that will ultimately accept Jesus or reject Him.

Those choices begin from the moment we can think for ourselves and yes, admittedly, that takes longer for some of us than others. We are products of the environment around us, made so by those in our lives that have made decisions which have consequences for us very much like the choices that we make will affect those that follow after us, those who are in our sphere of influence.

Wisdom is seldom appreciated but vital in the maturity of ours souls; when we apply the sound truth of Wisdom into our lives, we create boundaries that look after us and look after those around us and if we all implement these boundaries, accept them and acknowledge them, we would be able to see and understand that we’re only doing the best we can for each other.

Proverbs 4.23

Every day is full of new little opportunities to create an atmosphere or love, warmth and peace. Following in Jesus’ footsteps, we can start to create healthy relationships that will impact the world we live in.

It doesn’t, by all means, dictate a life where you can’t make mistakes or go out and explore the unknown world. It also doesn’t mean that all rules and regulations have been made with a pure heart. It simply means you embrace the mistakes that you make or that you experience and you grow and move forward for the better, allowing the Holy Spirit to guide you whilst you respect yourself and others within the boundaries of your understanding – understanding and knowledge that will expand the more you focus on God and do life with Him and for Him.

 

When we refuse to set down rules and guidelines, boundaries that give us an indication of right and wrong, we are lost in a sea of unfamiliar faces, feelings and difficulties that we have no idea of how to handle.

When we are children and have no structure or reproach for bad behaviour, we become petulant and bad mannered. It also leads to feeling unloved and isolated.

As young adults, we breed insecurity as we step out from the world of home and step into independence. The choices we make seem strong and mature but if we’re not careful, consequences will be dealt with in time.

In relationships, we think that because of our good intentions and hopeful expectations certain safety guards don’t apply, then we are blindsided by heartbreak and shattered trust.

As we grow older, anger, bitterness, frustration and regret will start to feel very heavy indeed and if we don’t let go or acknowledge the part that we play in the choices made, those around you will pay the price as well.

Boundary Line
Boundary lines…

Thus we turn to our source of life. God is the potter, we are the clay. We would be a shapeless lump without Him and His hand in our lives. It is essential that He’s there, shaping us and directing us into an image that will reflect His Perfect Will for our life, success and happiness.

That is the key to our happily ever after: we are not doing this alone. God is with us every step of the way and we can’t step forward without Him. We wouldn’t know how to. Like a human parent wants all the good things for their children – to their own understanding and capabilities – God’s understanding is everlasting and He wants so much more for us that we can possibly imagine or contain and He can make it happen.

 

God gave us the directions to follow not only to make our lives fruitful and healthy but also for others to have fruitful and healthy lives and in turn, have fruitful and healthy communities where we can all contribute and co-exist. It’s all just a matter of stepping forward, with your eyes firmly on Him.

 

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